Story in the Name
Someone told me recently that he had just purchased the book What Dreams May Come. I was struck by the title because it pulled me back both to the concrete language of Shakespeare from which it was extracted and to the haunting, unspeakable expectations of the imagined unknown. It drew me in.
I don't know how similarly evocative the title of my book, Slow Road Home, will be for other readers, but thinking back, I've laden it with personal meaning and poignancy. While the title, as I've said in my "business card description" of it, refers to both the journey and the ultimate destination, there is more. It carries back farther in time and into a different personal space than you'll read in the narrative of the book. Perhaps there is some element of memoir, even in the title.
I grew up in the era of Sunday drives. Still in our "church clothes" after lunch at a favorite sit-down restaurant--there were no fast food franchises in those days--we would strike out into the countryside in the family car. Sometimes we had a destination in mind, often frivilous and sometimes contrived on the spot. Other times, we were simply on the road, exploring places where the driver only knew generally where he was. The driver: my father--not a longstanding or significant part of my years beyond adolescence--gained my respect for his uncanny ability to always get us home from places where I thought we were hopelessly lost.
He sometimes made a point of taking a half-dozen random turns that would lead us in directions that even a ten-year-old could tell were not in the direction home.
"Where are we going now?" my brother and I asked, half hoping he could tell us, and other half that he didn't really know himself.
"We're going home the slow way. Let's see where we end up."
And so the slow way home then was a prolonging our exploration for a little longer, and it was a part of the adventure itself. It was both the purpose and the means of learning our way home from whereever we were.
I think I see that now in this book. I started asking four years ago "Where am I going now?" knowing that I didn't know the answer exactly, but having the conviction that there was adventure ahead on the slow road home and that the journey toward the imagined unknown would be as important as finally arriving at the destination.
Comments
Fred your Sunday drives sound very much like the ones I remember as a boy. At the very time when I'd start thinking Daddy had us forever lost I'd spot something familiar. There are lessons there to be learned I'm sure. I look forward to reading your book.
Good luck and safe journey on all the roads home.
Posted by: Lou Davidson | March 18, 2006 10:57 AM
Thanks for allowing us to go on that journey wtih you. I have been sick, and unable to finish your excerpt, but I will be able to do it soon.
Posted by: kenju | March 18, 2006 11:46 AM
"What Dreams May Come" is one of Wanda's favorite movies. The comparison to your book is intresting because as you point out the question of where we are going is one we can never answer until we get there. It's from that my blog got its name.
Posted by: Dave | March 18, 2006 11:49 AM
Very nice the way you tied that memory in with your book.
Posted by: poopie | March 18, 2006 1:52 PM
Consider the titles of some of the classics: A Sand County Almanac, Walden. They don't really tell you much or get a tone across, but they succeeded based on content (and word of mouth). As for your title: it really works for me! There is nothing I like more than to be driving on a gravel road in Missouri. By the way, I'm send you a check to get in line for a first copy.
Posted by: pablo | March 19, 2006 8:30 AM
Fred,
I remember Sunday drives, too. I'd sit in the back seat with Grandma and we'd always end up at Ernie's - a little country restaurant in Howard Co., MD. My big thrill was to get to play the juke box and dance around while we waited for dinner. Thanks for bringing back that memory.
Jane
Posted by: Jane U. | March 19, 2006 10:55 AM